R is for Resilience



Megan Vanlieshout – Soul Nourishment
Lifestyle Coach.
Bouncing back from difficult experiences.
I’m not sure that we are all born with resilience, I think it’s something we learn through life lessons.
Resilience means bouncing back from difficult experiences and situations. It’s from those experiences that we grow and learn life lessons and they can even encourage us to rebuild our lives if that’s necessary.
Resilience isn’t a trait that people have or do not have.
It involves behaviours, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in everyone.
Several factors are associated with resilience.
• A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities.
• The capacity to make realistic plans and to take steps to carry them out.
• Skills in communication and problem solving.
• Being able to manage strong feelings and impulses which means thinking about your reactions to things, situations and people.
Developing resilience is a personal journey, every person’s circumstances or reasons for resilience are different.
Not everyone reacts the same to stressful life events. An approach to building resilience that works for one person might not work for another.
A combination of factors contributes to building resilience. From all my reading and research on this topic, the primary factor is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family.
Relationships and friendships that create love and trust, provide role models and offer encouragement and reassurance all help to develop a person’s resilience.
We need to teach our children about resilience and not just expect them to be so.
In my own personal experience it’s a major life skill.
Next month we look at S FOR SMART GOALS
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